Handle Children with Care

  • Tell Them the Truth

    As difficult as it can be, telling children the truth about divorce and the difficult road ahead is vital. Parents don't need to go into detail or use long-winded explanations of complex emotions. It's usually better to choose a simple explanation, such as saying that you and your spouse can’t seem to get along well anymore. Let children know that living situations will change as the divorce actually takes place.

  • Spare the Ex-Spouse

    One of the most difficult situations is when a child feels caught in the middle of parents who are fighting. It's important to go through asset division and custody terms fairly; don't talk badly about your spouse to your children or try to use them to manipulate the legal proceedings. As an intermediary, a child custody lawyer can help make the process as fair as possible while protecting everyone from painful disputes.

  • Reaffirm Your Love

    Children should be reminded by each parent that they still love them despite the changes that are happening. Being respectful of your spouse in front of your children is critical. Make sure to reinforce the idea that you and your spouse will continue to love and take care of your children. It’s important to make sure they know the divorce is not their fault and remind them of this truth during those emotional times.

It can take a long time for children to adapt to their parent’s divorce. They may go through cycles of handling it well followed by times of becoming more emotional. However, it can help initiate discussions that allow them to talk about their feelings, ask questions, and be honest. Take the time to truly listen and validate their emotions. Maintaining an ongoing conversation can help the entire process go as smoothly as possible for everyone.